There are four kinds of lies:
Lies to cover up errors
Lies not to hurt another
Lies of omission
Then there are the skillful liars. They look you right in the face and tell you the most outrageous lie— so well —that we believe them.
In reality they are pathological Liars – – They lie when they don’t have to and doesn’t care who they hurt. And they make up fantastical stories just for the pay off of watching our reaction
The Skillful Liar
People, unwittingly, marry pathological liars. And pathological liars are much different from the three above. Here are some signs:
They don’t care who they hurt and don’t really consider the consequences.
When caught they don’t feel guilty— in fact they don’t feel much at all.
Often they believe what they say which makes them so convincing.
They portray themselves as a hero or a victim.
They are good actors and can come off as likable people.
The skillful liar is not necessarily born a pathological liar. They can have a secondary problem that is fueling the lying, perhaps low self-esteem. The treatment begins where God shines His light. What does God say about lying? Colossians 3:9 ‘Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.’ If you are a skillful liar, ask yourself a basic question: Is this getting me anywhere?
Rev. Dr. Craig A. Brewick, Christian Hope Counseling
7607 Garden Gate Drive
Citrus Heights, CA 95621
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