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Worry is about a future event we don’t think will go well.  It is fear. Most things we worry about never happen.   But some of them are very likely to happen and that causes us stress.  Lets begin by taking some deep breaths to calm down.  Call upon Jesus to help you think clearly and to guide you. Emergency Scripture:  Matthew 6: 25-34                       

Now lets think.  Take the worry to its extreme.  Ask yourself “What is the absolute worst thing that could happen?” Then, on a scale of one to ten, where would you place this extreme worry?  (one being no consequences whatsoever and ten being, perhaps death). With the extreme worry ask yourself another question:  “What is the first step I would take in solving this problem?”  Then the next steps until you have a working solution.   Remember, the solution doesn’t have to be perfect.  It does not even have to be that good.  But, at least you have a solution in your pocket until you can get more information. 



Ephesians 6:24 tells us there are two parts of anger. The experience of anger and the expression of anger. We must begin by taking deep breaths and calling on Jesus for help. First, why are you angry?  Did someone do something you were not expecting? Were your values violated?    Is someone blocking something you want to do?  Have you been cheated? We must respond to our anger just as Jesus would. Therefore, we must obey Ephesians 4:15.  Speak the truth in a loving way. Using a kind and considerate tone of voice we can ask questions that might clarify the other person’s point of view.  Respond to the other person (especially a spouse) with a loving tone of voice.  



Much of depression is situational.  Depression in this case is a loss.  Something you once had is now gone and you probably cannot get it back. A job, a death, a divorce, a dream? Is the loss something that you can touch?   Did it really happen or are you fearful it may happen? Once you have separated the reality from the imagined, you can begin to grieve the loss.  A close friend, relative or professional counselor can help you through this.   You can rely on Jesus to be with you and grieving with you.  One might ask “why did Jesus let this happen?”   There is no easy answer for this other than we need to trust that He will help us through any of life’s disrupting events. 


Guilt and Shame 

There are two kinds of guilt. True guilt and false guilt.  True guilt occurs when you have disobeyed a law, an authoritative figure or God.  False guilt occurs when someone tells you are guilty when, in fact, you are not.  The latter tends to occur early in life when well-meaning or not-so-well meaning adults tell children they are guilty.  They use well-meaning phrases such as:  “Now don’t you be angry.” When we are truly guilty, we need to ask God for forgiveness.  We know he will because of what He says in 1 John 1:9. Shame occurs when we do not live up to our own ideal.  The remedy for shame is not more forgiveness, but the acceptance of God’s forgiveness.  



There is a difference between loneliness and being alone.  Loneliness is actually a form of self-pity.  We’re telling ourselves we are in a bad place because we’re not with certain others. The Bible tells us we are never alone.  Jesus is always with us.  When we are surrendered to Him, the Holy Spirit dwells within us and we feel content knowing He is always guiding us and will never reject us. The church is a good place to worship God and to be with other people.  If you fear week-ends and you cannot be with others, tell yourself you are using your time wisely, especially if you can study His word and learn more about His nature.