Last week’s post was about how a wife disrespects her husband. Today, I am writing about how a husband disrespects his wife.
How he criticizes
Not paying attention to her. The husband chooses to live his life as a single man except for sex. He routinely focuses on electronic media or other manly ‘stuff’ and stiffens when his wife wants to engage him in conversation. A man does not necessarily verbalize like a woman, instead he keeps to himself until he gets so angry that he expresses his anger in an unChristlike way.
Uses the Bible to get his way
He finds passages in the Bible, out of context, which indicates that God forbids the wife to refuse him sex. For instance: Ephesians 5:22 ‘Wives submit to your husbands…’ He ends there without considering the many next verses which has to do with loving his wife as Christ loves the church. A wife will submit to sex if she has a kind and loving husband to have sex with. In this way the husband earns her respect. He also looks at 1 Cor. 7:5. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent. The disrespectful husband conveniently stops at ‘do not deprive each other.’
Not loving the children
A husband will often take pride in having many children with his wife and loves showing them off in church. But at home he ignores them by not playing with them and teaching them in a kind way. There is often extreme criticism, bad language, and sometimes inappropriate behavior with them or in front of them.
Neglecting family needs
Where does he direct the family money? The disrespectful husband will take the money and spend it on himself while allowing the family to go without essential and basic needs.
Paying more attention to other women in public
A husband’s roaming eyes is disrespectful to his wife because it indicates his attention is not on her, but on another woman. A husband doesn’t like to have competition anymore than his wife.
Husbands you can reverse course immediately by correcting one or all of the above disrespectful behaviors by obeying 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
Rev. Dr. Craig A. Brewick, Christian Hope Counseling
7607 Garden Gate Drive
Citrus Heights, CA 95621