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Choosing a Mate


1. Its okay if I date someone who says they are a Christian (T or F)

FALSE: He or she must behave like a Christian.


2. I really like this person because (he or she) listens to what I have to say. (T or F)

TRUE: Listening skills are very important in mate selection. Having a wide range of subjects and asking questions to give the other person the confidence that what he or she is saying is being understood.

2 Corinthians 6:14 (provides answers for 1&2)

As Paul reminds us “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness and what communion hath light with darkness?”


3. I want to meet someone who will meet my all of my emotional needs. (T or F)

FALSE: You’re expecting too much of any surrendered Christian to meet all of your emotional needs. Many, in fact, will be met but there are some that can only be supplied by the Holy Spirit.


4. I will put up with (him or her) wanting to go out and now and be entertained, but after marriage, (he or she) have to stay home with me. (T or F)

FALSE: People are born with different temperaments. Some like to be with people and partying and some don’t. This issue must be resolved before marriage by being willing to compromise.


5. I will know when the right person comes along. (T or F)

FALSE: Physical and emotional attraction are very important, but it is not enough to sustain a marriage. The spark can go out just as fast as it can light. All of the signs can be right: surrendered Christian and similar backgrounds and values. Great! Lets get to know their little nuances and their family while dating for a couple of years.

Ephesians 3:17-21 (provides answers for 3-5)
“That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; and to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fullness of God. Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen.”