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FINDING WORRY UNACCEPTABLE

The Difference between Worry and Concern Since none of us want to have worry or bad stress in our lives, we normally start to worry.  Even mentally healthy people choose to worry when first encountering a fear or stress.  This is normal.  The difference is whether the...

BULLYING AND SCHADENFREUDE

Schadenfreude is a German word that means taking pleasure in other people’s sufferings.  It kind of makes you sick to your stomach to think about that.   It’s bullying I think of schadenfreude is a good example of  bullying.  And, the bully naturally needs a...

WHAT DO YOU MEAN ‘SUBMIT?’

What Does ‘Submit’ Mean? . In Ephesians 5:22, Paul says ‘Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.’  Then, after explaining how a husband should love his wife, in verse 33 Paul says ‘…each one of you (husbands) must love his wife as he loves himself,...

HOW DO I KNOW I’M SAVED?

Excellent question:  How do I know I’m saved? Clients ask me this question. How do I know I’m saved?  I respond by asking:   ‘Do you believe Jesus Christ is your Savior from your sins?’  If your reply is ‘yes’ then my response is also ‘yes’ you are...

FORGIVE AND DIVORCE

You Can Forgive and Divorce  Christian divorce has always been a thorny issue.  The Trinity, through Moses, put into law the bill of divorcement.  (Deuteronomy 24:1-4).  This Old Testament Law reads:  ‘If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he...

SELL EVERYTHING?

Luke quotes Jesus as saying something quite underwhelming.  In Lk 12:32 reads ‘Do not be afraid, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the Kingdom.  Just before this verse he advises us to sell everything we have and take up the Cross and...

GOD, WHERE ARE MY ANSWERS?

God, where are my answers? I’m praying that my wife won’t leave me I’m praying my son will get out of jail I’m praying for a new job I’m praying that my husband will stop yelling at me Getting angry with God because he doesn’t seem to be...

I’LL JUST GIVE HIM THE SILENT TREATMENT

I’LL JUST GIVE HIM THE SILENT TREATMENT That is one of the worst forms of emotional abuse between couples.  It is is highly selfish and used to hate someone.   It can wear off over time but the damage is settled-in.   Activates physical pain The silent treatment, even...

HOW TO HAVE A CLEAR CONSCIENCE

   Confess your problems to God.  Hebrews 10:22 – ‘Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith to having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience.’ Know the forgiveness Tell Him what you have done and know that...

THE GOAL OF PRAYER

The Goal of prayer is to seek the wisdom of God.  Not trying to talk God into what you want.   What does God say? James 4:3 – ‘When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with the wrong motives,  that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.’  He will...