Do you want to please or is it a need to please? To want to please is a desire to be kind. A need to please could be a deep-seated fear of many things. In this case, the unconscious question we are asking ourselves is: ‘What happens to me if I don’t please?’ Are you trying to get approval? Do I please to just ‘get over’ the abuse or not make it go on longer? Am I in a habit of pleasing because ‘I’ve always done it?’ Who are we pleasing, and why? What would happen if we asked Him to help us to stop pleasing certain others out of fear? Mark 11:24.